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“The Common Link”. # 16



1] The Common Link

(An Introduction to Creativity)

Curiosity, most of the time, is a shield we humans use to hide behind, whenever we don’t want to bring into the open the real questions that we are interested in finding an answer to; I hope that the reason behind your decision to read this blog, is more than simple curiosity.

The common link for your interest may be that, like many others, you too are in search of something… I want to reassure you that you are not alone in this search. The common denominator is that we are all together in this moment in time, in the same boat, which we generally call “Life”. However, no matter what we call it, one thing is clearly relevant up to now: together, we share the illusions of life, which are but a byproduct of our way of thinking and feeling.

While meeting in the physical realm of life, perhaps we share together also the dissatisfaction concerning what’s going on within us or perhaps around us. We share the feeling of not being content with what’s going on in our own lives.

We would like it to be some other way. We would like it to be the way it is not, and we are trying to make that happen, but our efforts are in vain.

2] The Illusory Conflict

It seems that we have created a very deep gap, a sort of conflict between what we expect from life and what we get out of life. Somehow, deep inside us, we know for certain that things are not going the way they should. We would like them to be different. We all badly want to find solutions to our situations, to improve the circumstances of our lives. Yes! There is certainly a conflict in our life, but why is this both an illusory conflict and a real conflict at the same time? I hope to answer this…

3] Deep Rooted Beliefs

Deep inside ourselves we feel and think that there must be a way to change everything we don’t like, because we feel that we were born for something else. We hope for better. We believe that we belong to more than this, by birthright, and we continue searching for it. Underneath this common search there is always the hope that there must be some hidden meaning to everything, and if so, our knowing about that underlying meaning can lead us to the possibility of making changes according to our desires.

4] Is This Indeed Possible?

Everyone is after something else, and that something we are after is what differentiates us. Our common denominator is that we are all goal-oriented, whatever we do. There must be some reasons for what we are seeking to achieve. Our wishes and desires, our goals and aims, place us on the same plane as all the people who share the same desires, the same aspirations.

We are consciously aware of the fact that there is a common pattern of behavior related to the activity of satisfying our desires, and we conform to this pattern, by allowing ourselves to enjoy having our desires satisfied. However, no matter what the object of our desire, the moment we get it, our enjoyment is short-lived, and we eventually feel dissatisfied again. It seems that we are no longer sure about what it really was that we wanted and needed so much. And why is it that we do not feel satisfied when we have what we wanted? Then, we turn and look in another direction; we desire something else, we decide to go for it, and everything starts all over again, ending the same way – with dissatisfaction. It wasn’t really what we wanted, certainly not what we needed; and so it continues.

For years, ever since we have known ourselves, we’ve had the feeling that we have been missing some real target that must be behind Life. It seems that we are going around in circles and getting nowhere. We are making the same mistakes, again and again. It’s no wonder that we feel the way we do – disoriented. We are no longer sure about what is hiding beyond all our desires, what is it that we are after?

If there is a target, why are we dissatisfied when we reach it? Is our target real, and if it isn’t, then what is the real target? Is what we desire really what we need, or is there something else behind it that attracts us, but plays hide-and-seek with us?

When sincerely seeking to understand what is going on in our lives, we find ourselves circling around, following the same pattern of behavior and arriving at the same critical point, over and over again. So, the time is ripe to ask ourselves: Why is all this happening to us? What is wrong? Is it because of the nature of our will, our goals, or because of the way we think or behave? What is the recurring error, if there is one? Is there a correct formula of behavior that can bring long-lasting satisfaction? On one hand, we have this attachment, this desire, the drive to have something, but at the same time, conversely, we are oriented towards the other objects of our desires or needs. So; where is our mistake hiding? Should we not want to satisfy our desires at all? Should we not to want to achieve something at all?

5] Attachment versus Orientation

Being free of attachments is surely not the issue here. Our society is an externally oriented society. We were taught to search in the outside world for everything we need or want, and if we don’t find it, we are dissatisfied. Since the day we were born, we’ve learned that we can get almost everything we need from external sources, but only if we can afford to pay the price for it. And there is always a price for everything we receive. We always pay for what we consume, sooner or later.

Anything we get, we have to pay for it. And so, a pattern of behavior is formed: We demand, we receive, and because we paid for it, we have the right to give orders, to criticize, and so on. Whenever we can, we sit with our arms and legs crossed, giving orders: “You do the work for me, I deserve to be served, I’m paying you for it!” We’re playing the game of our life, and most of us play it without knowing its rules. We see life as some sort of business where we ask for what we want or need, and because we have to pay for it, that gives us the right not to be content, not to be satisfied, and to criticize it. We’ve gotten so used to this system, that it doesn’t occur to us to behave any other way. We’ve gotten used to the fact that everything has a value which translates into something that we have to pay, or give in return. Even love has its price. Each and every time we fall in love, there has to be a “because” behind it, and the nature of this “because” differentiates us from others. Are we reasonable people? What is the real “because,” that hides behind everything we want? Where does this “because” come from? And how are we supposed to differentiate between the “real because” and the myriad “false reasons” that populate our life’s universe, as excuses for everything that we feel, think and do?


6] Perceptual Differences

It sometimes seems to us that we are inhabited by several different people, all at the same time, all demanding their shares. There’s the one who wants and desires things to be done, the one who thinks and makes decisions, the one who’s against it all, the smart one who purports to know all there is to know, the one who gets things done, and the one who gets excited while things are being done. In addition, perhaps more and more of them inhabit us from time to time. Who knows?

7] Perception

Perception seems to be a tricky thing. If life for us is the way we perceive it, then life can be different for each of us at any given time. The differences in perception are responsible for all the differences we encounter in life. The way we perceive life is directly related to and dependent on where we situate ourselves when we look at it. Perception is colored by our personal conscious-awareness: there is the so-called “blind perception”, or “mechanical perception”, where the awareness is partially lacking, and there is the “creative perception”, which is the “awareness that is open” to “all there is” and to “why is it the way it is?”

The reason that we don’t recognize the differences in perception is because we were brought up like this, and we got used to the old system. So, why bother ourselves by constantly asking all those silly questions? Yes, we know that there is a price to be paid, but we have also learned that there are certain rules to this game, and because those rules are man-made, they aren’t perfect yet. So, you can buy advice from people specially trained in that field, who will teach you how to avoid those rules. So, you can postpone paying the price, or even avoid paying it at all. There are those who always pay, and there are those who know how to get what they want by manipulating others without paying for it. And this can be true for you too, for the time being, until you change it. Life is a funny thing, and a serious affair, at one and the same time. And it all depends on how we look at it, on how we see it, on how we perceive it.


8] We Live Life Exactly the Way We Perceive It

You can have it and enjoy paying for it, or, you can try to enjoy it without paying at all. (At least for the time being.) And if that is what you choose to do, and you believe that it’s okay, some surprise may await you somewhere around the corner, just to remind you in case you’ve forgotten about payment. We are always paying for what we do. Sooner or later we’ll have to pay for everything we received or did.

 9] What is Involvement?

To be involved means to be a part of something. Or to take an active part in something.  – Since each one of us is a human complex, each part of us, can be involved with something else at the same time. So, where does this take us? There is a sort of pre-established pattern that shows where we are at any given moment, and this is our awareness of the entire thought process, which stands at the basis of making choices and decisions. So, can we say that we are totally involved in what we do? Certainly not!. In most cases, our involvement consists only of our presence and our paying the price. It is always someone else who is supposed to do the job for us. Now, when things turn out to be the way they are for so long, and we are faced with unwanted results, it is only natural to think of some radical changes that ought to be made by us, when considering anything, from the point of; – from where does this coming from?.

The dilemma we are facing has its roots in the process of thinking and feeling. – How can we know the difference between what we want and what we really need? – We can ascertain this by inquiring at the basis from which our wants and needs come. What we find is that wants come from a materialistic basis, while needs are more purpose-oriented. That means that knowing exactly what we need may lead us to choose what we want, while deciding about the change that has to be made. And not the other way around. Change begins with our direct personal involvement through the act of thinking that generates the will to change. Real change presupposes that you already know that something is not as it should be. But, how do you know this? – You know it because of the fact that you aren’t satisfied with the results you get. You may know it by what you have now, which tells you exactly what is it that you wanted in the past and succeeded, or not, in obtaining it. You can also know that something goes against the universal laws, by looking at the efforts needed in order to attain it, or bring it to completion. Yow may know it also when it needs big efforts in attaining results, like the feeling of you’re swimming against the current. Change may arise from a number of conflicting motives that brought about the dissatisfaction: – Just criticizing and complaining will not bring about the required results.

Any intended change relies on some precise conclusions concerning the actual situation analyzed, and a stable orientation in deciding what it is that you really need? – Pondering about this question may bring into the open for you, what is it that you have to seriously consider doing about? Awareness presupposes creative orientation in planning what you need to do for attaining what you really want.  Awareness of all the aspects of a situation may or may not have ingrained in it the necessary orientation towards life’s purpose.

“When based on the acquired needed Awareness”, searching for what is wrong, knowing what you want, making an imaginary plan about what it looks like, where can you find it, how to get it, and only then; – comes: -“The Acting Part” with all the energy and determination needed, until the desired results are obtained. (The aims of Holistic Creativity, and the system of questioning employed part; that will will be discussed further on in time, a separate article.)       Change takes place in our consciousness first, before it is recognized as such in the reality of our surrounding world. Change is defined and brought to completion by a strong will combined with great determination. Knowing is a conscious process of data accumulation. Knowing includes being inquiring and widening one’s knowledge through comprehension of what’s going on. Being inquiring means questioning in all directions, it means internal and external questioning. Questioning paves the way to understanding ourselves, and by understanding ourselves we may be able to understand others, too. As long as we do not know and understand ourselves, there is but little hope of being able to understand others.

 10] The Art of Questioning

Questioning stands at the basis of knowing and understanding. So don’t take anything for granted. Ask questions. Ask them in order to get answers, and continue asking them even when you have already received the answer. You will be amazed to discover how many answers there are for the same question. But, moreover, you will discover the tool of asking questions just for the sake of asking them. And this is the funny thing that will increase your awareness and the discernment you need in order to perceive creatively. Knowing and understanding the ways that we think, feel and act is a must that always pays off.

Do we know what we really need? Are we sure that what we are after is what we really need? Is whatever you want what you really need? And if it really is, where should we search for it, and where can we find it? Now look around in all directions. Is man free, happy, creative, content, and at peace with himself and with all the people surrounding him? Has he attained the harmony he is entitled to attain, or is the opposite true? Where is the solution? It has to be clear enough for us so that our being content does not depend on whether or not we achieve what we want, (as we used to believe), but depends on what the object of our desire is. From our previous experience, we know that up to now we were collectors of goods, and that after getting them we realized that no longer satisfied us the way we expected they would. The results were contrary to expectations, and now, we are no longer sure whether we needed them at all. So, once more, we need to reach the realization that the real conflict we are facing lies hidden between what we want, what we get, and what we really need.

The cross-roads we arrive at by asking these questions allows us to realize that our dissatisfaction stems from being situated in this conflict, and thus, the feeling that we were born for something else begins to develop within us. From now on, it won’t be any help to pity ourselves for all this wasted time. All this has passed, and the time was spent on purpose in order to teach us something valuable.

We are fortunate that by nature, we can learn from our own experiences; if we don’t, we’ll have to repeat the same pattern again and again. If we don’t, we’ll continue to experience the same situation over and over again, until a time comes when we will know what it’s all about. It is our accumulated experience that is responsible for our being now, for what we are now. Where we arrived, and the place where we are situated at this moment in time, may be but a starting point for further new advancement. In order to get anywhere, you have to start somewhere, and our starting point will forever be the present “now”…

Every moment is another opportunity to start anew, if only we keep clearly in mind the direction in which we’re moving, according to our real purpose, which is the final target we wish and intend to arrive at. While living in the present “now”, we hope there is far more for us to come in the future. There is far more to be experienced, known and enjoyed, and this thought alone is enough to fill us with unconditional hope, at the positive starting point that is always our opportunity in the here and now.


11] Happiness

Is it true that we were born to be free, content and happy?  If so, where is the happiness we are longing for? What is happiness, actually? Where does it come from? Where does it hide? In what disguises does it appear? Where does it lead us when we try to chase it?  Happiness itself is not a target to follow! Whenever happiness becomes the target, the feeling of being dissatisfied arises as a byproduct of being ignorant. Man is creative by nature. By expressing the life force inherent in himself, man fulfills his purpose of being alive. Being alive is meaningful only when we are aware of the purpose behind life as a purposeful opportunity for awareness [to further expand and develop itself. Life is a conditional experience for us, and being content depends on what we understand about our purpose for being alive. Therefore, expanding in creative awareness is the key to our well-being and even to the dreamed-of happiness. When aware of his role on earth, man can be happy indeed.

Man is born to create his life the way he likes to live it: in peace, in harmony, with love and understanding, to live life fully and to enjoy it fully. Man is the only living creature capable of making full use of his potential, by his inborn right to freely express the life force present within himself, and by being what he really is: free and creative in all the domains of his activity. So, living a happy life is a question of orientation. If we point ourselves in the right developmental direction, we will enjoy life, but if we happen to aim the other way, we can mess it up completely. Looking around at what we’ve already achieved up to now gives a clear indication of the direction we were aimed at in our lives. If what this shows us is very different from what we like, and contradicts what we want, it is time to reconsider what we really need, and the direction of the course that we’ve been following. Furthermore, this has to be done by yourself alone. There are no options of finding ready-made solutions here.

So, happiness is ingrained in our origin. Happiness is contained in our own attitude. Happiness is a question of how we feel, regardless of what we have in our possession. Continue looking at the world, and learn from what you experience, but always keep in mind the fact that you should see them in a perspective of two opposing possibilities that underlie our being happy, content, and in harmony with it. See the motives underlying the happiness as not necessarily related to what we have achieved up to now, but to the direction in which we are heading. Life holds the solution to everything we need.

Life expresses itself through our creativity. The only way we can express life is by living it creatively. Being creative presupposes living “at full volume”, making full use of the innate potential in all the domains of life’s manifestation, it means fully utilizing all of the resources at our disposition. It isn’t important to know the statistics about how many of us really do that, or about how many are content with what they do and with where they’ve arrived up to now. And if we think or feel that we live in perpetual conflict between everything we expect from life and what we are really getting out of it, then we place ourselves on the wrong path and the chances to enjoy a happy life are null.

Being situated on the wrong path leads us to the incorrect conclusion that the way we live life is outside the realm of our expectations, and that something other than the expectations must be blamed. We all use the well-known conventional lies. We know that we’re lying to ourselves and to others when we respond, “I’m fine, thanks for asking.” Do we feel really fine? Do we have the courage to look at ourselves in the mirror and ask ourselves some direct questions? Alternatively, do we have the courage to look directly into the eyes of the other person and pronounce a frank analysis of the real situation we are in? It is said that: “All the experiences that we encounter throughout our lives are meant to teach us something.” Are we willing to integrate this teaching, which may also be the purpose of our coming here in this very life? What is it that we have learned up to now?

12] Freely Expressed Creativity

Although creativity is directly related to the possibility of freely expressing what we really are, what we really are is far from being manifested in everything we think, feel, do, and express, because we do not truly, fully express the life force in us, but inhibit its expression and prevent it from taking the form to which it is entitled by birthright. Somehow, we are holding back our life force. It can’t come out freely, because we are not free ourselves, we don’t feel free, and we do not behave as if we were free; we do not express the freedom of this explosive life force that is in the essence of us all. And this is so because we are continually under the bondage of extra stress and strain. We’ve become so used to this that we do not remember how it feels to be without it.  Being under the effect of stress is antithetical to being free. It means being sucked in to a state of mind that doesn’t leave us any way to truly enjoy our lives. Being free to express, and expressing, the life-force that is within us and permeates us, means being creatively free.

13] Feeling-Thinking and Thinking-Feeling

Stress and strain are diametrically opposed to life as we would like it to be, and as such, also to creativity. It is a known fact that we can’t be in two places at the same time. Everything that inhibits freedom is inevitably opposed to life itself, and thereby opposes the creative expression of it. In order to be creative, we have to get rid of everything that stands in the way of creative expression, to be calm and relaxed, to think healthy, positive thoughts, and to freely and fully enjoy life.

The act of creativity begins during and with the process of thought. So beware of what you think! Thoughts tend to materialize themselves. Being thought-oriented creatures by nature, we are and we become exactly what we allow ourselves to occupy our minds with. Well-being, good health and feeling well, are all directly related to creativity. They are interdependent and therefore they play an important role in the mind. Wherever your mind is focused most of the time, that is what you get accomplished. If we have not been creative enough up to now, it is only because of our way of thinking, because we indulge in negative thought patterns. There is an interdependent linkage between our processes of thinking and feeling, and it is important for us to discover the rules and learn how they work.

 14] We Feel Exactly as We Think that We Feel

If we feel at ease, we think accordingly, and if we think we are at ease, we begin to feel accordingly. If so, then feeling diseased, or dis-eased, is in some way rooted in the process of thinking diseased, and vice-versa. What is the best ratio between thought and feelings? Too big a difference might increase the level of strain, while equal amounts might neutralize all action. A proper balance is needed, because too much of either is going to be more than enough.

15] The Ecology of Thought

Thought is but a process, a process of the mind, aware or unaware of its own existence. Thought is like a horse. It can be tamed, held in control by will or by various other conditions. Given a start, a direction and a target, it can go anywhere. Thought has an origin at its beginning, a starting point. Thought can follow voluntarily of its own accord, it can be directed and held under control, it can be influenced by normal or exceptional conditions of the body and the mind. It can be triggered by brain processes and the state of the body organs, or by undergoing specific processes or conditions. It can develop in any direction, favorable or dangerous, by becoming a truly consequential follower, or inconsequent to its origin.

Thought lies at the basis of awareness and acting. Thought may be favorable or dangerous. Thought is a necessary process, when directed and held in control. Thought needs a direction and a target in order to express itself. The nature of thought depends on the source that initiates and sustains it by giving it direction or by imposing a direction on it. On whether it is initiated or triggered and starts involuntarily, or is directed by will. Thought can become wild and out of control. Thought can be a blessing or a- curse. Thoughts and feelings are the basis for any development, be it positive or negative in nature. Thought is influenced by feelings that can also originate it and direct its course.

The nature and origin of thought can influence our well-being, for good or for bad. Thoughts and feelings, these two together, may initiate or contain the future diseases, in the same way that they brought about the ones currently encountered.  Thoughts and feelings are being generated in our minds, but once started, they can get out of control, and wander around on their own. According to their nature and direction, they can embellish the surrounding atmosphere, or totally pollute it. Thoughts and feelings are like vehicles of locomotion that can take us anywhere, provided that we pay the fare for the trip. We can pick them up from the neighborhood, sometimes without even knowing it, and we can find ourselves in places other than where we wanted to be. You can pick them up wherever you are and think that they are yours.

Thought is a contaminating, detectable state of vibration that can affect and determine the state of our well-being. The atmosphere around us is being continually contaminated by negative vibrations, and that can severely damage the natural environment. Thought is influenced, colored, changed, can become passive or militant, favorable or adverse and negative by nature, to the essence of nature in general. Thought is influenced by reason and/or by feelings, and by overall internal and/or external conditions. Thought and feelings develop in the territory of our own body. We cannot remain undamaged and totally safe and sane at the same time.

We cannot live and accommodate ourselves to what goes on around us, and remain untouched by it. We are being involuntarily conditioned, pulled along by what is happening around us. We tune ourselves like musical instruments, as if to a tuning fork, according to the surrounding vibrational field. We respond to the environment mostly without knowing it, beyond our own will or interest. We get drawn in, trapped and badly influenced by it. We vibrate and become these vibrations, in all aspects of our being. Our senses lose their natural qualities, they become blunted, and thus, our natural connections are lost and we don’t feel grounded anymore. Instead of cleaning and fine-tuning the tools we were born with, we make use of crutches and surrogates to continue our existence. Anything concerning thought-ecology must also concern self-responsibility and awareness – for all of us.

16] Creativity is an Activity Demanding Expression!

The measure of the quantity and quality of the current feelings of life within us, is the expression of the life force that finds its way out through our being creative, no matter the field of our creative activity. Being creative is an active and dynamic act. You can’t be passive and creative at the same time; they are mutually exclusive. Living a creative life is far more, and far beyond the physical, chemical, or mechanical continuation of our existence!! We ought to be active and creatively alive and convincingly present in all our thoughts and actions.

We have to constitute a sign of affirmation in all that we do, and to creatively affirm our presence in life by being creatively active and present. Plenty of people go through life devoid of their presence in it. The vast majority of people are not present in their own lives, despite their walking around among us. Whenever you happen to catch the expression in their eyes, you get the feeling that “nobody’s home”. They are devoid of almost any sign of vitality. Life energy is not expressed. What a waste of time. What a pity! Self-expression is our way of affirming our own presence on the scene of life. While living life, expressing that we are alive is a must.  Creativity is a an area of activity that expresses life, and as such, it is always connected to self-expression of the quality of the life force present within us. And that is why many people, while being “alive”, so to speak, are not living and fully enjoying their life.  “Holistic Creativity” aims to expand the creative awareness towards finding the meaning behind life, and thereby the purpose of being alive, so that we can regain control of what it is that we are supposed to be doing while being here and being alive. When alive, while creatively aware, the outside negative influences fade away, because we are prepared and have the necessary tools to deal with them.

“Holistic Creativity” encourages teaching us the means and the ways to access the hidden resources present inside ourselves, and thus to fully utilize this domain that we are entitled to have and to fully make use of, and to enjoy it by birthright.




Life is just the way it is!

But it can be

Much more than that!

It can be

Unlimited beauty,

Abundance and limitless joy,

Unconditional love and

 Total harmony.

Life has a purpose behind it,

Known or as yet unknown,

That we ought

To rediscover,


The purpose behind Life

Is self-fulfillment.

Purpose implies an existing


For our being here

And having a direction to follow,


Knowing the direction

Of the development of Life.

We need to continually reorient ourselves

 To the direction of

This Life Energy

That is always present

Inside of us.

We need to free it and make use

Of this energy,

To let it express itself

Creatively through us.

In order to attain

Whatever we want in life,

We have to know exactly

What we really want and need.

Our will has to be positively


With this inner harmony

And abundance

That gives direction to

Life’s development,

Allowing us to be creative,

Life-fulfilling and


In everything we